Dear Married Women with Tessy Nkennor: You Cannot Protect Your Husband Forever, You Can Only Do This!!!

I wonder why some married women think they can always keep an eye on their husband. I wonder what makes them think they can protect him from looking elsewhere, and how long do they think they can keep that up?

The type of women I pitied most are the ones who believe their hubby is not capable of having extra-marital affair and as such they take the sexual aspect of their marriage for granted.

These men are not blind you know! They are not in prison and they are not lame. They walk the street of Lagos and they see beautiful girls every day. Except if your husband want to lie to you, he can never deny that he has not seen a girl that took his breath away even after he married you.

That's the truth and that's why I feel sorry for some women who think all they have to do is to fight for their marriage. Do you really have to fight? The moment it comes to the point where you have to fight for your marriage...
then you should know you have failed at something.

You have failed in bed! You have failed at seducing your husband. You have failed at being attractive to him. You have failed at being his girl next door! You have failed at packaging yourself, your looks, your boobs and your hips!!!

These street girls don't go about with sagging breasts and oily face you know. They don't wake up in the morning tying wrapper around their waist and even if they do our husbands don't get to see them in their houses. They sees them on the street or at the bus stops or in a restaurant, just name it and each time they sees them all they see are the tempting boobs and fascinating hips. You can't fight this battle when you are still tying wrapper around the house like old mama. You can't win this battle when you still go to bed and wake up with sagging breasts.

No one is saying you won't have sagging breast. According to a statistics, 8 in 10 women are liable to have sagging breast after their first child. What you should do is to get a good bra that will pack your boobs and make it full and alive.

You will be surprise that almost all those street girls have similar sagging breasts like yours but your husband won't get to see them until he wakes up next to them in one hotel room and by then it's too late.

Why do we even think we can win the battle against these street girls when your sex life is as dull as anything. You're not creative in bed, you're not romantic in the living room and you're too cold in and out of bedroom. You just lie down on the bed for him to do his thing. Who do you think your husband is? A dog or a goat? Because its only these two animals that doesn't care if there's a response to their touch when they have sex.

All your husband want during sex is a sign that you enjoy it as much as he does. Sex is like a phone call. If I call you and all I get is a silent treatment I may not want to call you again and even if I want to call you I will think twice before picking up the phone. Sex is like a two-way thing.

It's not just enough to give him sex every day, it's important that you see to it that he enjoy the sex.

These men are like a child, if you feed them very well at home and even pack enough goodies for them to school you will discover that they won't have interest in other children's goodies. In fact, some of them will even return home with leftovers. Another reason why a child might be interested in another child's food is when he sees something sweeter than what you gave him at home.

That's exactly the way our husbands are when they are satisfied or not fully satisfied.

Don't starve your husband with sex because if he's not satisfied at home it's a matter of time before he starts looking outside.

You will always know a man who is well fed with sex when you see him on the streets. Oh please don't let me go there because that's another topic for another day.

As a woman, you should be able to bring your husband to a point where other women's body apparatus reminds him of you.

That's all I've got time for today. Join me on my blog, www.tessynkennor.com, this Wednesday to read more on Dear Married Women With Tessy Nkennor. And you might want to join your husband to read Dear Married Men with Tessy Nkennor tomorrow!!!