My Answer To: "My Fiance Cant Speak Good English, Is It Possible I Marry Him?"

I want to thank you all for your comments and advice. Sandra mailed me few hours ago that she read the 22 Comments on my blog and she was very happy. Although, I must say, not all the comments I approved are nice. Some Blog Visitors can be too blunt you know.

To the good and bad comments, I'm saying a very BIG thank for, at least, taking out time to help a fellow sister in the Lord and for those that saw her plea for help and choose to ignore may the good Lord not leave you in your time of need in Jesus name. Lols.

Anyways, I promised Sandra that I'm going to give my response, although she said she's overwhelmed with all the comments she read on my blog, but I'm obligated to give my own response. So, I'm going to make it very brief and straight to the point.

My Dear Sandra,

What I noticed the whole time I read your story was that, like myself, you expect your man to speak good English and be someone you can be proud of in public. And there's nothing wrong with that. Yes, and that doesn't make you selfish or insatiable. Everyone should have a standard of some kind, otherwise we will settle for just anyone.

You said he enrolled for two different English classes yet there's no difference. Well, if he...
does not match your standards and you know you'll not feel comfortable with that, there's no need to continue the relationship. You need to break up with him.

You should be more concerned about settling with someone you can easily introduce to friends and associates for the rest of your life. Don't let society dictate to you. You take your time so you can make a sound decision.

Think about it this way, when you have to introduce him to your entire family, your friends, associates, your boss, your colleagues, how will you feel? Would it be easy or will you be tempted to hide him way or shut him up for the rest of your life? Would that be fair to him, and how do you think it will make him feel?  You're not married and you're afraid of taking him to see your family.

The plain truth is that you're not proud of him and that's not something you can blame yourself for. There are some people no matter how much you try to change them, they will always be what they want to be because they've been like that for a very long time.

Never forget that when you get married, you represent him and he represents you. If you're not comfortable with his image, you wouldn't want to have him represent you. And that could crash your marriage.

So do the right thing, and let him be. Just leave him. He may feel hurt, but you're doing the right thing, you're saving yourself from a broken marriage and you'll be doing him a favor in the long run.

Thank you.