Sandra (Not her real name), I want to thank you for giving me the permission to use your question on my blog. As I promise you, I'm not going to alter anything from what you sent to me. I'll go through the answers my Blog Readers will provide and afterwards give you mine.
Alright, everyone, let's help our a Christian sister. Please don't ignore. Place your opinion as comment. Thanks.
"My name is Sandra (name withheld) and I got your contact from your book, The Last Virgin Alive. I read that book three times before I put it to rest. I don't know if I can disturb you with a little probs of mine.
My problem is that I've known this guy for over five years now. We actually met in Uni Ilorin when he came for his Masters. He's handsome and he want us to be friends. Just friends then. I knew from the day one that he can't...
communicate very well in English. He prefer to speak pidgin or his native language. When he speaks, he uses past tense with present tense and more grammar error like that. To make the matter worse, his native intonation is always in his English when he speak.
I didn't complain then because he just ask to be my friend. After few months, it got serious. We started seeing what we have as more than friendship. I discovered I was beginning to have feelings for him. That was like four years ago.
When I saw he's beginning to make it serious, I told him to work on his English language. He did. He took on a private school where they teach english and spent like 6 months there. Still his English did not improve. I complained and he went for another class.
As am mailing you now, he has not improve a bit.
Why I had to seek help is because, he has proposed to me and he's asking me to take him to meet my parents. My father will feel disapointed in me if he hear him speak. My mother will definitely be worried and oh my sibilings will have a field day laughing.
What should I do? I can't even introduce him to my friends, it will derep me. I love him very much and I'm just so confuse because he's not improving.
I'm ready to listen to you and whatever you say is what I'll do.
22 comments:
there's nothing as bad as being ashamed of your spouse..if na me, I for run...find someone more well mannered and presentable
Hmmmm, it's like you just narrated my story o. i also met a cool, handsome well to do guy, but his command of English na die. omo, i ran o. Because why marry someone who you cant take out to a gathering or functions or even to show off to friends without the fear of him committing blunder. If u are a graduate, with good command of English there's no way you won't be ashamed of him. So ask yourself, does it worth it? Don't marry someone u can't flaunt in the midst of people.
Is good English going to put food on the table?
Obviously she doesn't like the guy that much that's why she's. Faulting him..well you alone know wt you realy want..if you want to mary him do that cuz you love him nd feel you can tolorate him nd nt bcuz you wanna mary a good-speaking English
If u can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. Know what u want and go for it. The best advice is the one u gave to urself. Search ur heart, if u can, then move on, if u can't, then move out.
English? The main thing there is dat u guys shud love each other n always be ready carry each other along
Nobody is perfect,is either u accept him d way he is or u breakup d relationship,ki Olorun ma je ki o so nu,ki o to sonu.
its important to marry someone you are proud of. Dump him!!!
If he has all qualities u want in a man plus that he's fully loaded. Then my dear there's no cause for alarm. Kindly use what you have to get what you need.
It's simple. use his money to polish him
If u say he has all qualities u want in a man plus that he's fully loaded. Then my dear there's no cause for alarm. Kindly use what you have to get what you need.
It's simple. use his money to polish him. Teach him small small with style. Good guys r scarce o. Arrange your man my dear. Most made men were arranged by one woman o. Love doesn't mean you are blind to his faults. It means you can live with them. If you are not interested in working on this guy then waka comot babe
I know how you feel but.. His issues are fixable.. marry him
you can neever love a guy or feel something for him and come here to badmouth him, never
This poster aint loyal,because he can't speak good English then teach him or get a teacher for him its really obvious you love his qualities nd the 'koko'if you don't have anything to do with him free am
If u are not proud of him let him be.
Poster leave d guy and give anoda woman d chance.... Dis guy ur talking about in dis disdain manner....... . Dere are people out dere begging to get marid to him.... Since na english u wan marry
From d way u described d guy u dont love him dat is y u cant look pass some of his imperfection... Just know dat nobody is perfect
My dear poster you can hire a private tutor who will assist him to speak English properly. Just accept this young man dear poster.
Ladies like picking guys errors in spoken English so that they will make jest of him behind his back.No wonder there are spinsters everywhere.
@everyone who condemns
and who are you to dictate what her preference/standard in a man should be? oh pls be quiet. if she likes a man who speaks good english, so be it! there's nothing wrong with that, ok??
you talk as if women ought to be desperate to get married! are you their God to dictate at what age a woman should get married??
It's very easy to give advice than to be the one to face the music. Let her make her choice.
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