Dear Diary With Tessy Nkennor: Ladies, You Are The Reason Why He Demand for Sex! Yes, You're The One!!! (Concluding Part)

On Monday, I started a very controversial topic and I was unable to conclude it because it was too lengthy. I want to thank you for taking out time to comment and as promised, here's the concluding part. Trust me what you're about to read is 'a must read' for all single ladies who are into a relationship where sex is becoming the order of the day and I'm going to be very frank with you.

Unlike us, guys are more turned on by what they see than what they hear. To you, you might be thinking, "I wear what makes me feel comfortable... what's wrong in wearing a short skirt... why would he feel like touching my boobs because I wear something tight..." You are wrong. To him, he's thinking, "Mehn, her thighs are spotless... how will it feel if I just have a feel... mehn she has a big boobs... if it's like this on the outside how will it look like under the dress... hmn, this is serious o... see how it is bouncing... how I wish I can just grab it..."

All these thoughts will give him the willpower to go out of his way to do anything for you just to have a nice feel of what he has seen briefly and partly and don't think it will make him think marriage. No, marriage is a long process. It will make him think how he can touch it right now. He will work hard on your heart to a point where you won't have problem showing him everything you've been covering.

So, each time you dress half naked, you are not just dressing to be comfortable or to please him, you are dressing to invite him to ask for what he can't see properly.

From time immemorial...
, GIFTS had been a weapon to break barriers and get into the heart of any living soul. Show me a gift without a reason and I will show you a Trojan horse. As a lady, a time will come when you will begin to notice how a guy will start buying you gift and material things for no special reason. Am sure he must have been doing that and, like many girls before you, you must have thought it's just a gift or he's just being nice. That's our undoing!

While am not saying you should not accept a gift from a guy, am actually saying guys had come to understand that the way to a woman's heart is what money can buy so they spoil you with gift. 

Collect gifts with appreciation, but don't make it look, or make him think, you owe him something. The moment you...
look indebted by what he bought for you, you are unknowingly asking him what you can do to repay him. To show their appreciation, some girls will jump at him, some will peak him, in fact, almost all ladies will not know when they make body contact. That's very dangerous and that's the first sign.

Trust me, he will not ask for sex right away. He will buy you more expensive gifts to throw you off balance and when he feels he had done so much for you he will ask for a kiss or even do it without asking. If you think it's not true, give him 3 months of collecting gifts from him, at least 6, and he will start demanding for sex.

While am not saying you should not appreciate a gift from a guy, am emphatically saying don't let him think you owe him or he owns you because of a gift.

If you fail to see this sign then you can't miss his arrangement to have sex with you since he can't have sex with you on the street. To every sex, there will always be a PLACE and TIME! The moment he start making plans for the two of you to be alone in his or your house when no one is around and not an eatery, then you should know that is the closet sign to asking for sex. If you want to confirm your suspicion just ask him if you can come with a friend or family member. If he says no, then run, baby, run! That's why I always tell ladies who complains or lament, after having sex with a guy, that they initiated it.

Yes, they encourage him. You are to be blamed for your loss of virginity and for him to have the courage to look you in the face and ask for sex. You encouraged him by planning to be alone with him. You led him on when you agree to meet him in his house alone. You are indirectly telling him that you want it as much as he does. Sometimes, guys need to be cautioned. They can't help themselves when sex drives set in and it is your duty as a lady to caution him. It is your duty not to encourage it, even if you allowed him the first time, it is only you that can stop it. You can stop it because you can smell his sex drive miles away. You can sense it in his voice, you can read it in his planning arrangement and you can even feel it without seeing him.

If he set a place and time in his house, please honor it, but don't tell him you will come with someone and if he warned you ahead of time not to come with anyone, don't tell him you won't honor it. It's not a sin to keep him waiting and calling and then let him understand your position. If he so much try to talk you out of your determination please kindly tell him to do the needful. If he so much wish to have sex with you then he should so much wish to marry you. By avoiding sex is definitely the only way to make him look for money and marry you, not by opening your laps because you don't want to lose him. Only a womanizer or a playboy that will breakup with a girl he had not slept with. Apology to those guys who believes they are different from the ones I mentioned above. I stand to be corrected!

Thanks for taking out time to read this long epistle.

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