Friday, 29 August 2014

Right or Wrong? Women Who Don't Sleep Around Before Their Wedding Have Happier Marriages...

I lifted this article, or should I call it research, from DailyMail claiming, ''Women who have several sexual partners before getting married have less happy marriages - but men do no harm by playing the field,a study has found."



Although, I must say that the article was not written with Christianity in mind, but we all know that some of our single brethren still sleep around. That's why I want us to review this post together. Like always, drop your opinion as comment so that others will learn from you.

Alright, let's see what the article has to say...


According to new research by the National Marriage Project, more than half of married women who had only ever slept with their future husband felt highly satisfied in their marriage.

But that percentage dropped to 42 per cent once the woman had had pre-marital sex with at least two partners. It dropped to 22 per cent for those with ten or more partners.

But, for men, the number of partners they they have had appeared to have no bearing on how satisfied they felt within a marriage.

Researchers said the study showed that sex with many different partners 'may be risky' if the woman is in search of a high-quality marriage.
It concluded: 'Remember that what you do before you say 'I do' seems to have a notable impact on your marital future. So decide wisely.' 

The findings were published in 'Before 'I Do': What Do Premarital Experiences Have to Do with Marital Quality Among Today’s Young Adults?', published at the University of Virginia.

The report, by Galena K Rhoades and Scott M Stanley, said the first conclusion of the study was that 'What happens in Vegas doesn’t stay in Vegas'.
It means our past experiences, especially when it comes to love, are linked to our future marital quality, they said.

The researchers said those who had more partners perhaps find it difficult to commit to their spouse because they were aware of the alternatives.
They added that more experiences of breaking up can give people a 'more jaundiced view of love' which could affect future relationships.

The report said: 'Many in Generation YOLO (you only live once) believe that what happens while you’re young won’t affect your future. But our research paints a different picture.
'This doesn’t mean that sex before marriage will doom a marriage, but sex with many different partners may be risky if you’re looking for a high-quality marriage.'

It continued: 'Having had more relationship experiences prior to marriage also means more experience breaking up.
'A history of multiple breakups may make people take a more jaundiced view of love and relationships.' 
The study also found that couples who had more than 150 guests at their ceremony had the greatest marital quality down the line.


It said: 'We think this finding has to do with making a public declaration of commitment and having community support.
'The more support a couple has, the better they are able to navigate the occasional choppy waters associated with marriage.'
The study tracked the relationships of a representative national sample in America of 1,294 unmarried men and women aged 18-34.
The researchers followed the subjects for five years. In that time, 418 were married.
Only 23 per cent of those who got married during the survey had sex solely with the person they married''.

*What do you think about this research?I agree about some aspects of it though... 

8 comments:

El-shaddai said...

That's not true at all. They statistics may be right, but that doesnt mean its the same with every country.

Anonymous said...

whoever that wrote this article totally got it wrong.

Blogbabe said...

If u disagree its cos u r guilty. If u agree its cos u r not guilty. I agree

Bidex said...

I say 'RIGHT' cos after u have slept around with guys you now settle down with a guy who knows ur past. each time he remembr ur past sexual involvement or worst still he knows one of the guys u slept with how can he be happy

Chioma Adaze said...

my point exactly. Ladies stop sleeping around cos if guys sleeps around we ladies can live with it but if girls sleeps around guys can't bear the thought of it talkless live with it.

Anonymous said...

Hmnnn.... who wrote this? It's baseless and inaccurate abeg

Morenike Oluwademilade said...

Hmnn... am enjoying comments on this blog. Wow, I say the writer is wrong.

Anonymous said...

I always give thanks to God in my heart,that God kept and Iy got married as a virgin at 27years old. Reason for writing this is because I love male friends than Female ones.almost all my female friends are gossiper but d male. We used to pray together and when I got married my husband trust me. But, what if I've been have premarital sex the trust won't be there! So, my opinion is don't get involve in premarital sex either you're male or female. The Bible also informed us not to commit fornication