Wow, You’d Be Amazed At What Goes Through The Minds of Pastors’ Wives!

According to Christina Stolaas, a blogger on Shattered Magazine, she said pastor’s wives are often taken for granted and sometimes ridiculed, but without them our spiritual leaders might not be able to survive the chaos.

Stolaas asked some of these amazing women what they would tell their congregations were they given the chance to do so. Although she interviewed a variety of pastor’s wives, from large congregations to one’s barely surviving, their answers were very similar.

1. Congregations don’t understand how difficult it is to be a pastor and have a family.
According to Stolaas, every one of these first ladies told her that their husbands...
rarely have time for their family. She added that they all agreed that church matters have taken precedence over family matters, such as vacations and simple family time, on many occasions.

2. They’re afraid of making mistakes.
Contrary to popular belief, pastor’s wives struggle with the same issues most women face, such as sickness within the family, financial obligations, disobedient children and marriage problems.

3. Being a pastor’s wife is a lonely job.
It’s not that these women don’t desire the company of others, but they always seem to be on display, so rarely find someone with whom they can share their thoughts.

4. They would love to be treated just like any other woman.
Although pastor’s wives usually support their husbands in his ministry, they desire to be approached just as they are and not a spiritual problem solver. Stolaas adds that most of them have hobbies or other interests that they are dying to share with others.

5. Sunday is the hardest day of the week for these spiritual women and their least favorite.
Because they have to be ready to put themselves and their family on display for the rest of the day, Sunday mornings are extremely stressful for pastor’s wives, as is the rest of the day. Most of them are glad when the day is over without too many disasters.

6. They don’t like people openly criticizing their husband about his ministry.
Although her husband may not always be correct in what he says or does, it’s hard for a pastor’s wife not to hold a grudge against anyone who is deliberately trying to bring him down. Members should also remember that pastor’s children are not perfect and make their own decisions just like other children, no matter what they have been taught.