To be honest with you, I was taken aback when I read what Cory Haywood said below and mind you simply because I'm posting this on my blog and I'm not saying anything for or against doesn't mean I agree with all the things the author said in her article. I'm putting it here so that we can have your views on her perspective.
So, according to Cory A. Haywood in his column “The Black Hat,” African-American brothers
should think twice before tying the knot with a good Christian woman,
especially if she happens to be the daughter of a preacher.
Please don't raise eyebrow yet because you will soon scream... lol! Continue after the cut...
The Southern California based personal fitness trainer goes on to say
that a good Christian woman may seem like the perfect partner for life,
because she can cook, she’s intelligent and she will take good care of
you. He adds however, that you should be aware that if things go wrong
in the marriage, she might act more like Satan himself.
According to Haywood, a Christian woman, when she’s angry can be your
worst nightmare. He adds that she might threaten to burn you with hot
oil or hit you over the head with her
Bible, while she’s calling you a
heathen for not attending church with her.
If you’re thinking of marrying a good Christian woman because you
don’t want to end up getting divorced, you’d better think again, said
Haywood. He adds that the people who congratulated you at your wedding
are most likely to be the one’s spreading malicious rumors about you in
church.
Another thing the columnist believes about marrying into a Christian
family is that you’d better be prepared to be put in the spotlight. He
adds that most Christian families probe into your private life to see
what they can dig up to gossip about in church and your wife is likely
to listen to them.
The worst thing a black man can do, according to Haywood, is fall
into the mistaken belief that a Christian wife will obey and respect
you, because the Bible tells them to do so. He adds that in today’s
society, it’s rare to find a black woman who will submit fully to her
husband, unless he brings in a much larger amount of the family income
and even then, she’ll want to have her say.
Haywood believes that one of the main problems with young Christian
women is that they interpret the Bible to fit their way of thinking.
“In the eyes of many Christian black women, a man isn’t worth being
respected, or obeyed, unless he provides the finer things life has to
offer; the necessities come second,” said Haywood. He continues, “Many
young black women simply aren’t mature in their walk with Christ. They
tend to value material objects, instead of finding the value in their
own lives and relationships.”
11 comments:
He's wrong. Not all ladies are like that. We still have descent wife materials in the church. Am a living witness
He's making it sound like all church girls are bad. Even if he's right, he still wrong because he obviously have a thing against church girls
Is he married? If he's married then did he marry a church girl or a street girl? If he's not married then I pity him cos he got it all wrong
He sounds so bitter he must have been hurt by a Christian lady
Tessy, u shuld have said something to counter what this guy is saying before our church guys let it get into their heads.
The guy could be right you know. Most black Christian girls in UK are guilty of what he said. For a recent example consider the Moniye guy who claimed church women are being taught to go against their husbands. you don't know what is going over here that's why u can doubt his statement
So Mr Author, if we cannot marry our church girls who should we now marry? Pls enlighten us kos u cannot just condemn one house without giving us a way forward
U no wnt our church girls marry be that. Make he go take a seat
Guys una don ear o. Make una start marrying from beer palour or hotels cos I no no who this guy wnt make we marry
Yes, he totally got it all wrong. there's no perfect woman. All girls irrespective of being a church girls has there own weakness and even if there's a perfect woman out there if u r not careful u might teach her to be a bad girl.
someone shuld tell this man that cos one church girl broke his heart does not mean all the eggs are bad.
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